James hit the nail on the head, so to speak when he was writing to believers in the book of James about the tongue. In chapter 3 of James, verses one through twelve, he writes how much our mouth can get us into trouble.
“For if we could control our tongues, we would be perfect and could also control ourselves in every other way.” (James 3:2b; NLT).
I am sure you have heard people say that’s why God gave us two ears and one mouth so that we can listen more than we speak. We can praise God or curse Him. Our mouths can be used to uplift or tear down. Our words are powerful that they can affect those we speak to and have a lasting effect.
“The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences.” (Proverbs 18:21; NLT).
Many times it is hard when people are using their words against you, and you just want to tell them a thing or two. Proverbs speaks about the tongue and its power.
“A lying tongue hates its victims, and flattering words cause ruin.” (Proverbs 26:28 NLT)
“As surely as a north wind brings rain, so a gossiping tongue causes anger!” (Proverbs 25:23: NLT)
So how can we “tame” our tongue in such a way that it will be pleasing to the Lord? We look to Proverbs again for insight:
“A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare, The tongue of the wise makes knowledge appealing, but the mouth of a fool belches out foolishness.” (Proverbs 15:1-2;NLT)
“Watch your tongue and keep your mouth shut, and you will stay out of trouble.” (Proverbs 21:23; NLT)
OK, so we are to answer in a way that deflects anger by choosing our words carefully. I know that will take some prayer and guidance from the Holy Spirit on this one. Many times we want to answer in the same way the other person reacted, and we are not to do that.
Proverbs 21:23, instructs us not to talk too much because it will keep us out of trouble! Wait a minute! I think this one may be the hardest one of all. There are times when you have to say something or need to say something, but you really do not have to.
I am a quiet person by nature, but I still have to choose my words wisely. I have, at times, said the wrong thing. So no matter if you are talkative or a person of few words, the tongue can be used as a poison.
The Psalmist left us with this wisdom: “Come, my children, and listen to me, and I will teach you to fear the LORD. Does anyone want to live a life that is long and prosperous? Then keep your tongue from speaking evil and your lips from telling lies! Turn away from evil and do good. Search for peace, and work to maintain it.”
(Psalms 34:11-14;NLT)
Excellent reminder!!